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Life Imperfect

This life we create through social media, through what we choose to let others see can sometimes seem like we live in a perfect little world where nothing bad ever happens.  I hope that I don't come across that way, because while I am blessed in the life department, life  sucks sometimes too.

Life is imperfect.  Life is messy.  Shit happens.  Life goes on.  But that life is beautiful.  And while I love sharing with you beautiful recipes, my sweet husband, my cute dogs, and a perfectly staged Instagram shot.  I also want to be real with you and let you know that everyone has stuff going on in their life whether you know it or not.

For every beautiful recipe, there is one that didn't turn out, one that burnt, one I dropped on the floor, and one that tasted bad.

For every new opportunity, there is something, more times than not, that you leave behind. 

For every sweet moment of my marriage that I share, there is also a moment where we were aggravated at each other, where I said something I shouldn't have, where he didn't take down the garbage cans (clearly I cannot get over this), and all those not so great moments mixed in make it a real marriage.  A marriage that I wouldn't change for anything in the whole world.

For each cute dog, there is a hairball that multiples what seems like immediately after I vacuum.  If you come over unannounced you will see them floating around the floor like they are part of the decorations.  Dog hair sticks to your pants, it's in your food, and there is nothing I can do about it.  Frankly I don't have the energy, desire or time to keep up a perfect house.  My house is lived in and I wouldn't change a thing.

For every perfectly staged Instagram shot, it has been thought out, lighting adjusted, and probably retaken a time or two.  That coffee mug with the pretty napkin and maybe a bean or two of coffee sprinkled about...that's not how I usually drink my coffee.  I'm usually drinking it in front of a cluttered computer desk while I type away at the screen (like I am right now, bed hair and all.)

I have some stuff going on in my life right now, both really good and well frankly kinda crappy.

Yesterday was kind of rough for me and life can be hard to understand sometimes.  You can be cruising through life, loving every second of it and bam...you get smacked in the face by a freight train and it tries to knock you off your feet.

You have to deal with it the way that works for you.  I highly recommend a good cry, a talk with a friend, a big glass of wine, and a hug from your husband. 

All of that to say, you aren't alone and I needed to remind myself that I'm not alone in my imperfect life with "stuff" going on.  Everybody has "stuff" that they are dealing with and tomorrow is a new day. 

Yesterday got me thinking and I had to make sure that you knew that I mess up meals, I have fights with my husband, my house isn't always clean, and my life is not always roses.

My life is real, messes and all.  But mixed in with all of those messy moments, there are some pretty close to perfect moments that make it all okay. 

"There is a crack in everything.  That's how the light gets in." -Leonard Cohen